As many of you know, recently I have been struggling with my finances due to recently having to quit my job and watch my kids full time. I was planning on starting to take classes again this fall, but those plans fell through quickly once I realized that I cannot begin classes until my past…
Anonymous asked: Raising a special needs kid is more than just you being able to give them an adequate life. Are you going to be able to afford an aide or for one person to stay heme for the rest of your life? Then what are you going to do when you die? Likely you won't have the resources left behind to continue the best possible care for them when you have left this earth. State funded facilities are usually not quality. It really is a personal decision, and she should be respected regardless if her choices.
I get that. I do. Not everyone is cut out to handle a situation where special needs are a reality. It’s just the way she talks about it, and the slurs she uses to describe anyone with a birth defect or disability… She herself has never had a child with any kind of anomaly, it’s her mom (my co-worker) who has. But to hear her say “well if the baby is normal, if course she will be our princess! But if she’s *r-word*, then she’s a useless animal and we don’t need that type of trash around.” It just breaks my heart that they would rate the babies value based on physical abilities, and talk like that. Idk. I understand giving her up if it’s more than they can handle/ are prepared for, but it just makes me sad that they are being nasty about her possibly having DS or another disorder. When they talk like that it gives off the vibe of conditional love, not unconditional. It just makes me sad is all. It’s her life though, and ultimately her choice, and if that’s what she wants, ok then.
I just don’t like hearing them trash talk people with disabilities/ anomalies as though they are somehow /less/ than a “normal”, healthy person.
My mom had a stillbirth with my little brother. And he had DS.
My father and his side of the family were relieved and basically not even upset that he was born asleep. They didn’t care because he wasn’t a “normal” baby.
That showed me at such a young age that their love was completely conditional and it’s proved to be 100% true.
Even if her baby is born healthy, she’s still going to be a terrible mom. I feel so sad for that baby.